I chatted with a friend I hadn’t seen for a long time on WeChat and recalled my previous impressions of this friend. This is a friend I met during those years when I was on the road. She is a female and a Hong Konger. Her family background is very good. I remember that her family owned two floors of a commercial building in Xujiahui, Shanghai, with a high I was sent to the United States to study when I was in middle school. I finished college in the United States, got a job in Silicon Valley, and joined the famous Oracle company. I have a bright future in making money. I also have a Japanese boyfriend who also works in a company with a good income. This kind of life should be envied by many people in the future, at least I will.
Later, her life changed with her decision. She gave up this step-by-step life and started traveling and living. Then she joined some NGO organizations and often participated in charity activities. For a while, she came to Chengdu and stayed in a youth hostel with some backpackers from various countries. At that time, I had just finished running the youth hostel in Xi'an for 5 years. I was extremely confused and came to this youth hostel in Chengdu as the manager. The boss was also a friend in the same industry, so he asked me to help. I often chatted with her there and learned about her above experience. At that time, I often called her boyfriend to persuade her to return to the United States. Each time the phone call lasted for a long time, she was always unwilling to go back and insisted on going her own way, eventually breaking up. Later, the group of backpackers from various countries dispersed, and she also left Chengdu and China.
After that, there was no contact for many years. I only knew that she had been traveling around the world, whether it was sojourning or wandering. In the eyes of most people, she was someone who did not make a good living and married and started a family in an irregular manner. If she wanders for a long time, her life will definitely become more and more frugal, living in straitened circumstances, and maintaining very low monthly expenses. She probably won’t ask her family for money. I guess her family will not support her lifestyle. I guess her relationship with her family is also relatively tense. Now she has just left a small village in Sri Lanka where she has stayed for more than half a year. Due to the epidemic, she has traveled all the way to this small village. I went to Dubai and stayed for a few days as a couch surfer. It is the kind of couchsurfing that is used on the Internet. It is an online community where backpackers from all over the world provide free accommodation to each other. You can make an appointment, and the other party can stay at the other party's house for free after passing the approval. In the process, I also encountered landlords with evil intentions. In short, in my opinion, I encountered many dangers and suffered a lot.
Now that she is in her forties, I asked her if she had any regrets when she looked back on her wandering life over the years. No regrets, just regrets for not traveling to more places and wasting a lot of time with the wrong people, was her answer.
Objectively speaking, I have always felt that people who say they have no regrets at all about their lives are a bit willful and stubborn and refuse to admit defeat. I doubt how many people in this world can truly say they have no regrets about their lives.
Here are just some emotions. Recalling part of this friend's life, I can't give any opinions. The complicated destiny is full of all kinds of helplessness. No one is a master of life, and there is no perfect life. You can only look at the various aspects of life and know whether it is good or bad.