During the Dragon Boat Festival, I made an impromptu decision to go to Wuxi last night and return the next day. First, I went back to Wuxi to pick up things, hiking shoes and other travel supplies that I needed for this trip to Yunnan.
Secondly, give your father something, including rice dumplings, tea, coffee, mung bean cake, a coat, shower gel, etc., and a headset for him to use for video calls.
I picked up some express delivery before going out. The time was just right and I hurried out to Wuxi.
We first went to my father's place. The nurse was helping my father to walk. The nurse's surname was Yang. I usually call her Sister Yang. She was very enthusiastic. The most enthusiastic of the several caregivers was also a bit chatty. Talking too much to her made my head hurt. However, I am still a little curious about her as a person and will learn more about her living conditions in the future. Most of the caregivers here come from other rural areas. Everyone who comes here to work as a caregiver has their own story.
My father is in good condition, has a good appetite, and looks good, but his movements are still slow, he still cannot control his bowel movements well, and his speech is still not good. The damage caused by cerebral infarction to the nerves is equivalent to destroying a person, with a lethality of more than 70%.
I sat down next to my father and watched TV with him. I had some simple conversations and exchanges, and my father could respond simply. I looked at him without any other words, just watching and thinking. My father's brain was damaged, so he didn't know what really happened. What he would face in the future, repeating a monotonous life every day. Compared with before, there was no sign of collapse. If there was, maybe it was just half a month ago. He has a very strong adaptability. He may not even know it. If he had not told him that he would live such a life in the future before getting sick, he would have suffered and collapsed. People's adaptability far exceeds their imagination.
I suddenly thought that I should make a video call with my brother at this moment. During the Dragon Boat Festival, the three of us can get together. After connecting, my brother and I started chatting, and the topic occasionally brought up my father. My father listened very carefully and attentively. I asked him from time to time if he heard what we said clearly and if he understood. He nodded and occasionally interrupted, which really made him understand. I asked my brother if he had any regrets about going to Germany. My father was immediately happy. Maybe he also thought this question was more acute. From this point of view, some high-level functional areas of my father's brain were normal. I asked my brother about his feelings about living in Germany over the years and his understanding and evaluation of these European countries. He started talking about this topic. He had something to say about this topic over the years. My father listened with great interest. This goal was achieved. My brother continued to talk, and my father and I continued to listen. At this moment, I suddenly felt a little bit of long-lost beauty, the kind from a long, long time ago, which can be traced back to childhood.
The happiness of a family comes from harmonious communication, sharing and listening with family members. The communication can be about anything, all kinds of things in this world. The specific communication, sharing and listening are not so important. What is important is that family members can enter the two states of sharing and listening together. This is the happiness in life, the happiness of the family, it can be said that the happiness of family. Imagine if my father was still young and my brother and I were children, he could often talk to us about things about the world, nature, humanities, society, and life topics. We listened attentively while our mother pancaked us. It was wonderful, and it captured all the happiness at the moment. It can be said that we are both happy and lucky to be like this.
Nothing happened like this, those who left have already left, those who grow old have grown old, nothing happened like this, the good things can only be left with regrets.
It's two days after my mother's birthday and I go to see her. Some things have been delayed for a few days and it will be a few days late.